This is really important, I agree. Also, though, don’t mix responsibility and fault. Fault is virtually irrelevant, and responsibility is ultimately “Am I going to be the one to respond to this?” Yes - you’re responsible. No - you’re not responsible.
That said, others are in the same boat. If you don’t take care of your own needs, they don’t have to, either.
This is really important, I agree. Also, though, don’t mix responsibility and fault. Fault is virtually irrelevant, and responsibility is ultimately “Am I going to be the one to respond to this?” Yes - you’re responsible. No - you’re not responsible.
That said, others are in the same boat. If you don’t take care of your own needs, they don’t have to, either.