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Cake day: June 17th, 2023

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  • I attended my first pride wearing a pink/purple/blue tutu. No one questioned me. No one said anything except that they liked my tutu and shirt (pride in rainbow, both self made because stores didn’t sell “pride merch” at the time :p). Everyone was welcoming, everyone was nice, and it was fun to be “out” outside the house.

    You don’t have to be out to everyone to be out at pride, and it’s a good experience to feel that acceptance, especially if you don’t already have it outside your romantic circle. If it still feels strange, be subtle, but be open to saying “I’m bi, this is my husband, unfortunately my gf couldn’t come.” Or whatever version of that feels good to you, but if your pride is anything like my first one, you will leave feeling seen and validated.










  • If you’re taking about OP, I get what you’re saying. It’s a lot to get mad at the ignorant or the struggling because of something that isn’t being widely reported. Many people are “ignoring” something that they don know whether to believe, if they even know about it at all. I do stand firm, however, that once you know about an atrocity that a company has committed, continuing to use it either indicates you don’t care or (if the atrocities are ongoing) are complicit in their activities.





  • What you are talking about is not the same as what OP is talking about. Following the analogy, it’s not like you should stop using shovels (or knives, or water) because someone bad used them (hell, Hitler was a dog lover, and I’ll be damned if I stop loving dogs because of that asshole). Rather, it’s that you shouldn’t just use the shovel you know murdered someone because the person murdered didn’t matter to you. Stepping out of the analogy, it’s not about the tool used (though the case could be made for some things) but about the companies who made them and how they used them or knowingly allowed them to be used.


  • Isn’t it difficult to initiate change to big companies without user pushback? What impetus do they have to change when their user base accepts what they are given? Sure, regulators and legislators should do something, but they aren’t going to do it on their own. People need to do their part, and mass exodus is something the media reports on. I’m not asking anyone to abandon these places entirely, especially if their communication with certain people relies on it, but anyone can move away from them to some extent. Just because it’s hard doesn’t mean it’s not with doing. Also, in no way am I saying that it is the users sole responsibility to bring down or hold these companies accountable, but it usually takes some grassroots to get something started.