I’m happy I found put I was bi. Explained a lot. Don’t like biphobes and bigots tho
I mean, as an asexual its hit and miss if I enjoy it. Like, being such a small subset i feel removed from most societal norms. Those with a sex drive, regardless who its for, still fit in to the sexual nature of human existence while I don’t. I don’t get off nor do I have attractions to any gender, I lack all of a sex drive so I am mainly one who views everything from the outside. Then again I love it as I am not distracted by anything and don’t have those sexual vices. I however don’t really come out to anyone about it unless it comes up in conversation, as most people don’t seem to understand how it’s even possible. I been told many times that I am lying or I just haven’t found the right person yet.
As a fellow ace, I feel this so much. It’s why I think it’s important for people to talk about and understand the unique struggles asexual people deal with.
i agree with this. it’s been hard for me personally because, as a sex repulsed ace, i’ve felt very unwelcome and ostracized in all sorts of situations, among aces and allos alike. making new friends can be hard with my limitations of really not liking any sort of sexual jokes or discussion, and so many ace spaces are full of grays/favourables who actually have sex all the time, and aces who are super proud of their identity and see no downsides at all, and i’m just neither of those.
i’m a LOT more comfortable with myself than i used to be thankfully, but sometimes it’s still hard. i wouldn’t say i feel proud to be biromantic simply because that’s a natural part of me i’ve never really had issues with internally or with others, but i’m somewhat proud of my asexuality simply because i’ve actually had to fight to be okay with what i am. that feels like something i should be proud of.
Am I happy? I certainly feel more complete since I figured things out. I don’t know though, it’s almost like asking if I’m happy I’m right handed or have curly hair. Being pan is just part of me, and it’s a part I embrace. I think when people talk about pride, what resonates to me is more “the complete absence of shame” rather than the feeling I get for accomplishing something. Happiness feels similar to me.
i agree a lot with this. maybe it’s because i don’t feel like i had a lot of figuring things out with being bi? like, i just sort of was like “hmm i think i like girls” one day when i was younger, and now it’s no big deal. i’m happy for other people who consider it a larger part of their identity, but i haven’t felt that way in a very long time personally.
+1 for “pride is the complete absence of shame”
Yes… it’s good to have a better understanding of oneself. It’s been a bit of a roller coaster though…
First exploring and understanding the bi side of my sexuality… and more recently there’s been exploration of a long buried fem side.
Came out at work as they/them a few weeks back… was at a Pride march yesterday.
Now ready to hide under a blanket and cuddle a stuffie…
Glad you’re doing ok I’m starting to explore too
I think there is a tendency, at least in the early phase of discovering you’re queer, to believe there’s something remarkable about that. I certainly thought so for a while, especially because where I’m from being openly queer was not as prevalent 15 years ago as it is now. I’m happy to have friends who don’t treat me differently for being queer, who love and support me for who I am.
Yeah, it honestly explained so much.
Yes I am
It really helped accepting myself for who I was rather than drinking myself to death because I believed there was something wrong with me.
I still haven’t told my family I’m bi, but honestly I’m not missing out on much due to many of them disowning me already due to politics for other reasons.
Felt more like I was at peace than happy
i can not express my love of being gay, kinky, poly, and most of the things that make me me… i love our culture, our creativity, and our relatively high levels of compassion. i love being sex positive, i love just doing what feels good, i love being able to express myself and feel seen!
Overall I’m happy. finding out I was aroace helped explain so much of my life up to that point, and it’s easier to give myself grace when I don’t bother seeking out relationships like everyone else in my life does
Yes, and some extra peace. I felt that now I know more about myself that before.
When I discover that I’m asex, I felt like many puzzle pieces clicked at place. When I accepted that I’m aromantic, I got some peace as I understood that pressure that hetero-amatonormaty had on me. And now, that cracked my egg and understand now that I’m enby, I feel liberated. But also I feel some afraid, but also hope, about the future.
The only thing that I lament, it’s not knowing my self before, and the lost time.
I’m mostly just grateful to live in a time and place where the consequences of living openly as myself aren’t all that severe. Though bigoted legislation may come for us yet 😬
Well, I really enjoy that everything makes much more sense after my self-discovery. I always felt like an alien in a world where everyone else just intuitively gets the rules. After discovering that I’m trans and autistic, this just confirmed that I am indeed somehow an alien. And now that I know that I’m different I try to learn to mask (emulate my behavior?) less and be more my self. But it is also pretty hard to come to terms with not fitting in this society and that it will probably always exclude me in some way. It just drains so much energy to be marginalized on a frequent basis. People that stare at me, are confused by my gender presentation or my way to talk. This whole society is just build to accommodate people that are not like me. It is nice to have my like-minded friends, but it still is kind of a lonely life full of barriers.
Yes! I love being bi and nonbinary. I love that it opened me up to a huge community of people who I otherwise might not have gotten to know. I love girls and I love guys. I love sharing my love of girls with my male partner. I love being seen and accepted for who I am in ways that are comfortable for me - not trying to conform to an image of masculine or feminine, but rather, being seen as someone who is both and neither, just getting to be “some guy” and “a cute girl” at the same time.
I don’t regret a thing about it; my only regret is that I didn’t figure out I should do something about not being cis sooner, and that I could’ve gotten puberty blockers before it was too late. If I could’ve delayed puberty, I could avoid having to save up tens of thousands of dollars for top surgery.
So, I guess you’re non-BInary
Sorry,I had to say it
And I really am indecisive as all hell 😭 I’m the reason for all the stereotypes :'(
It’s so much easier going through life without constantly having to fight various parts of myself.
I’m trans.
I can’t possibly describe in words how much better my life is since coming out. Things are hard for us right now, and I wish that fear wasn’t there, but mentally it’s like I’m actually living for the first time. I was an absolute husk of a person before discovering who I really was and taking some steps for transition. It’s both the hardest and most beautiful thing I’ve ever done.
Only thing I’d change is wishing I had discovered it sooner
