I do not look soft and cuddly!!

How dare you suggest such a thing, Hoomin!

( glowering Universally )

: P

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I think part of the problem is simply that people are trying to figure-out what “good & proper boundaries” means, for them, and since nobody’s got themselves together

( our world is engineered to sabotage self-competence: the self-competent can’t be preyed-upon as completely or easily as the compromised, therefore self-competence isn’t permitted.

As John Taylor Gatto, a New York State award winning teacher told us, children with secure self can’t be manipulated, and therefore the education institution cannot tolerate children to have secure self.

Breaking them, so they are dependent on approval, is required, for institutional authority/security/dominion.

All the spyware that surveillance-capitalism does, the “panopticon” we bought our way into, is the same thing, but for-profit, and for-corporatism. A “designer prison”.

Comically, it’s fundamentally about competing addictions, with social-status being tied to sociopathy, in some corporate cultures. )

since nobody’s got themselves together, we’re all defective in doing relationship properly, because the fake relationship pushed on/in previous generations ( looking at the 1950’s for its fakeness, as the worst ) meant that their relationships were … often fundamentally ignoring & pretence based.

Try enduring a few minutes of “The Waltons” and see if you can stomach the “relationships” in it…

it was popular!

People believed in that, as hard as they could.

Getting bogusness out from ourselves has to happen in order for us to get it out from our relationships, right?

Well, it’s a messy process…