I care a lot about what other people think (not good) and if someone tries to help or helps me, I can’t stay without saying thank you. I really want to thank people who comment on my posts. But many times I ask a lot of questions and I thus reply to a lot of comments and try to be polite and show how grateful I am. So, now, I have seen many people abandoning their posts after they get their answer without upvotes or replies or followups, I am pretty sure they are better at time management than I am. Now, what do you think?
What is the right way to behave when you post and random strangers help you? I know you all don’t think about me all the time and if you made a comment you probably will forget about it, so is it ok to just upvote and forget even the people who help you? I have an exam in a few months and I should not be wasting my time rn, what would you do if you were in my place?
Don’t say “dont’ create posts” because I like the people here and the answers they give, but yeah, it’s a hell of a job to reply “satisfactorily”. Again, should I just “upvote and ignore”?
Also, I just want to say that people here are amazing. You guys are very helpful! Like, especially on c/linux! Such helpful communities are one of the things that make Linux great and more usable! Thank you to the folks at c/linux btw
That’s why upvotes exist. If somebody helps you, upvote their comment.
Could try editing in how grateful you are in your original posts so you wont have to reply to each individual comment
You will never find a satisfying answer to this question because there isn’t one and social relationships are not transactional. Acknowledgements are nice, upvotes or comments but no one really expects replies. I generally only reply if I want to continue or add to a conversation. Nevertheless, it doesn’t frankly seem like you want advice here. If you want to study, literally just get off of Lemmy and back to studying, there isn’t a way around it.
You will never find a satisfying answer to this question because there isn’t one and social relationships are not transactional. Acknowledgements are nice, upvotes or comments but no one really expects replies.
thank mate! I will consider this from now on
If you get a lot of replies, too many to individually thank, you could update your post with an “ETA: Thanks for all of the helpful replies” or something like that.
I usually just upvote and thank the especially helpful replies, or the ones that resonate with me.in particular.
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That’s very nice of you, very bad Janet
I care a lot about what other people think (not good) and if someone tries to help or helps me, I can’t stay without saying thank you.
Since you consider this to be a bad thing, have you tried changing yourself? I recommend chillin’ and hangin’ out.
Beef stroganoff and chill?
Beef stroganoff AND chill? this is getting out of hand, now there are two of them!
I usually just throw a “thanks in advance” in the OP ¯_(ツ)_/¯
I always respond to people who comment on my posts, but I don’t post often. Generally speaking if I feel like the conversation has concluded, I’ll stop replying. If the reply to my comment doesn’t need a reply of its own (like if it’s a joke, or an addition to what I said, etc) then I also don’t reply.
Or I do. Whatever. There are no set rules for interacting with stuff. If you’re finding it hard to keep up, just don’t. For example, don’t respond to this comment. Like, for practice.
I recognize this, i’m a bit of a ‘thank you’er’ too. Sometimes i upvote, but particularly if someone sent me an elaborate reply, or they share something personal, or they took the effort to look something up or share a link, i will thank them. However, i don’t thank them so much from a feeling of low self worth (so, not because i don’t want to seem ungrateful), but because i want to make them happy, or feel good. It’s a bit of a shift of perspective, i think. We live in a world that can be pretty cold and harsh and i have no idea how the person that replies feels. They might be social, reply to me, move on without a second thought. But they might also be someone who generally feels depressed or worthless and in that case my sincere thanks might make their day, or at least brighten a moment in their day.
Great comment, thank you. This is the only one I have seen so far that I really agree with. All the other replies are a bit self-absorbed, imo.
Thanks for the compliment, stranger, and have a great day/evening :-)
I would say upvotes are thanks enough. But if you have something extra to say, then I’d say thanks in a comment and then give your extra information there.
For example, just “Thanks! That was useful/entertaining/enlightening/etc.” as a comment is pretty pointless, as an upvote conveys that exact message. Nothing more and nothing less.
If you have something more to say, then a comment would be appropriate. Perhaps something like: “Thanks! I did your X method with a bit of extra Y and now my car runs so much quieter!”.
This is especially true if your extra information would be useful to others who may also be reading the thread.Just ask and say thank you somewhere. You don’t need to thank everyone. Just thank one or two people or write it as an Edit in your post so it doesn’t look abandoned. And upvote helpful answers.
I don’t like the people who ask open questions and then don’t clarify or reply once, don’t upvote answers and abandon their post. I assume they also don’t read their replies and it’s just wasted time. That’d be the thing to avoid.
Regarding your time-management: Maybe write a list of things to do and a schedule for the remaining days. You can do other things if you also finish your tasks for a day. If you’re behind: focus on the important stuff.
I don’t usually say it out loud, but I do thank people with either upvotes, faves, following them, or depending on my resources, replying with a vocaroo of me giving thanks if the acquaintanceship is semi-personal. It’s sometimes better.
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An upvote is enough. If something really helps you out and you want to say “real” thanks, once per thread is enough, even if there are follow up questions.
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Eh do what feels natural to you, but if you are short on time don’t go around saying thank you to everyone. Prioritize, how impactful was this interaction in the grand scheme of your life? Did the other person spend a lot of thought and time typing to answer? Those things weigh in too.
It’s ok to not reply and don’t take it personal if people don’t reply.
This question makes me think about how would I protect precious Mr Rogers from the heinous things in the Internet (RIP if he were still with us today) because quite honestly I would love it if there were a space like his show somewhere on it.