It’s not always that simple. For beach volley, I saw athletes commenting that shorts are worse because of the sand getting in the way. Men would chose something better in a different culture. There’s sexism I believe, but it’s not always what we would expect.

I have an account in beehaw too, and it’s usually the one that interacts with the world. It’s considerably different from a different instance.

Are you saying we can’t know if someone is male or female just by looking at them and that there are other options according to the discussion below?

Have you considered that you’re a people pleaser? Being kind and nice is good, but do you do that in detriment of yourself? Can you say no to favors?