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Cake day: 2023年7月11日

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  • I will feel the person’s anger more and more strongly as the distance between us decreases. The person doesn’t need to outwardly show any sign of anger for me to feel it - they can appear perfectly calm but if they are angry, I’ll feel it.

    When I interact with people, I don’t try to put myself in their shoes. I’ve known for many years that I can sense other people’s strong emotions, so I mostly focus my awareness on how I’m feeling and use that as a sense. If how I’m feeling changes spontaneously (not caused by my mental focus, thoughts, or reaction) when I’m interacting with someone, I’ll know that I’m sensing something from the other person.

    My experience of other people’s anger is different from when I feel angry. I experience other people’s anger as a very uncomfortable sensation my abdomen and solar plexus. It’s similar to when I feel angry but I’m more detached and I’m observing the uncomfortable sensation, which is mostly localized to my solar plexus. When I’m angry, my thoughts and emotions are fully engaged, my anger has a direction, and I feel it fully in my body. Like, “I’m experiencing anger vs I’m angry.”

    When I experience someone else’s anger, it’s not directed at the object of their anger - it’s just a sensation.

    So if someone is angry at me, I don’t feel angry at myself - I just feel their anger being directed at me

    The way I believe it works is through resonance. Have a look at this video that illustrates it with wine glasses: https://youtu.be/lTl0badhh8Y

    People are like wine glasses that vibrate how they are feeling and if someone is capable of resonating with them, they begin to feel it too.

    If my baseline feeling is far from anger (I’m feeling a strong positive emotion), I’ll feel other people’s negative emotions less, or not at all.










  • If you decide to go with them for a longer period (first try it out short term to see if it works for your purposes), I’d suggest going month-to-month until they have one of their big sales.

    I don’t know the dates of all of their sales but the steepest discounts I’ve seen that are coming up have been in mid/late October (a Halloween sale) and Black Friday (late November). Existing accounts can also take advantage of their sales so if you go with a yearly plan at one of those sales, you can perpetually get the sale prices.

    They also have 3 year plans with even larger discounts but I’m hesitant to recommend those (even though I recently got one). Lots can happen in 3 years - laws in your area could change that affect server availability (they could close servers if laws start requiring logging - something they did in Hong Kong, for example), they company could get sold, the servers you prefer to access (remember, you don’t have to use servers in your country) could start reaching capacity and they may be slow to add additional ones, company policies might change.