Sure, it was nice to discuss this with you 🙂

Also, to me at least, your words were fine and made sense. I get that words in text can be difficult, especially to translate thoughts to, I have the same problem myself sometimes.

Sure, thanks for taking the time 🙂

I’ve definitely seen it in other places, but tumblr is a strange site. I’m not sure exactly why but users there tend to be a bit more emboldened about things like this and there’s lots of injokes, cultures and memes that happen only there.

Not everything is good on tumblr of course, them emboldening can lead to a lot of people talking about things they don’t understand and attacking anyone that doesn’t agree with them. That does happen everywhere, however, tumblr is seen as one of the ‘nicer’ commercial social media sites and so they feel like that makes them more justified in their opinions, would be my guess.

Okay, because as I was trying to show not everyone considers them so in every context, if the context is one of reclaiming and positive then that might be a context where they aren’t considered slurs.

if you mean the ‘slurs’ for gay people then it’s because in some places they are genuinely reclaimed as good things to call yourself.

Agreed, though technically there aren’t really ‘opposite’ genders, if there ever were, it’s seen as a social construct and centers the binary and that women exist as opposites to men, which isn’t quite accurate and something we should try to move beyond.

Yeah, cisnormativity actually plays into that too and yes is also annoying.

Just to help a little here, hope that’s okay, it’s called Mononormativity, you don’t have to spell out the whole word 🙂. As a relationship anarchist and ethical nonmonogamist I completely agree, see my rant about it here: !relationshipanarchy@slrpnk.net (sadly the client I use is being annoying and not letting me copy the link to the post directly).

Yikes, the legal system really is horribly systemically broken, right to its core.

Thanks for posting this. Exmples are very useful.

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Not inherently.

People do share music there though, both free and non-free even though it’s technically not allowed to share the latter.

Oh, maybe, however, a lot of them are the streamers and probably some viewers are disabled themselves. The streamers just don’t want to drive potential viewers away before getting to know them because of the whole way they have to present themselves in order to get money I think. Also because they think changing people through kindness and getting them to stay is better, which I can’t always disagree with.

Whispers on accounts old and new are now blocked without a phone number, there is no way around this. There is no setting for it that anyone can change. I have had an account for several years with very few problems and now I am blocked from whispering anyone as I refuse to hand over a phone number.

You can if you’d like, but I know twitch is going to get worse before or if it ever gets better, so personally I’m extracting everything I care about from it (mostly my clips) and then deleting my account. My life has been better since I stopped watching streamers too, I have more time and energy and don’t have to worry about as many things.

Yeah, sadly so.

I learned a little while ago that community isn’t really what I’m looking for so I’m probably an outlier here to be honest.

I wish I did know a group of people that did that.

Yeah, I am glad not all care about fame, it does amaze me how people can show themselves on camera like that or at least use their voice, I could never.

I agree about money being built through mutual aid, and I am glad that can be done, genuinely. I am glad that it works for you, that’s quite the amount of work you have put in it sounds like.

Oh, I completely agree. However, whenever I tried to call it out or in in such spaces I either got the distinct impression I was annoying the streamer, the other viewers or in a few cases have been contacted directly by the streamer and been told to stop, so this is another thing that soured me, I apparently care too much and mess up too much to hang out in such places.

I completely agree about accessibility tools, in foss they just often aren’t there because either no-one cares or they are just ignorant. However, twitch have locked a lot of their communiction and ability to watch streamers behind handing over a piece of very personal information (a phone number) which I don’t consider accessible or good and in a few places it is unnecessary as they already had protections on some things. Now they have gotten rid of a dedicated safety team and are replacing it with streamers who they aren’t going to pay extra for the ‘privellege’. [sarcasm] there’s absolutely no way that could backfire [/sarcasm].

I’m glad that it works for you and I hope you find some decent anarchists that stream though, genuinely.

Oh, I’m not imagining nobody would be there, just a few people that really believe in it.

I was around twitch for a while and before that youtube, and on commercial social media I’ve found that it creates a sort of artificiality, lots of rules and how you have to present yourself is different to places that take a less commercial approach because the goal is money and fame to a certain degree in commercial spaces.

Plus a lot of the time commercial places impose their will upon the viewers too, so both streamer and viewer are at the behest of a corporation which has soured on me over the years, I can never relax in such places. I feel like I’m being watched, which is probably true and they don’t have to listen to any of us, they might listen to those who make them money but that’s about it.

Ah, well, I’m not interested in ‘popularity’ and ‘reach’ but I do understand in the world the way it is people have to care about such things.

If you find any that stream on peertube please let me know. I abhor commercial ‘social’ media.

Good.

Fair enough, I just wasn’t sure how to work with that grammatically, thanks for helping me!

Yes, a lot of physical or culture genocide is perpetuated through ‘socially acceptable’ behaviour, so you’re not at all incorrect.

A lot of CBT is built around ‘cognitive distortions’ this is the main crux of the issue as a lot of autistic people/those who are autistic will be telling a therapist their experiences and then the therapist will think it’s a cognitive distortion when it isn’t.

Huh, I thought this was a non-issue nowadays and people knew to use “they are autistic” etc, guess I was incorrect.

For the record, I’m also autistic, have autism and unlike others here think it hasn’t limited my thinking or stopped me from changing and working within the bounds I have like everybody, regardless of neurotype, has.

I actually think the opposite of most commenters here, by not allowing us to be ourselves and recognise how we work, that’s the thing that sets us back, overwhelms us etc more.

If we are wanting to improve ourselves we must first recognise what and who we are and then work within that so we can do that, but it should never be done for other people or because society demands it, that way leads to bad ends.

Oh yes, it really does, sadly. I know this from my own upbringing.

Yeah, socially acceptable things are not at all ethical a lot of the time so I actually ignore them or do socially unacceptable things which makes people confused or annoyed, but I’d rather live according to my own morals and ethics than what others think is correct and morally right because time and time again I’ve seen it not be and lead to disastrous results long term.

As a relationship anarchist I hate having hierarchy in my relationships with others so I always do my best to make sure that doesn’t happen.