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  • ugh, pointless discussion at this point

    Agree to disagree, i find the varied perspectives interesting in their own right, not so much the content of the original post.

    Obviously the barrister wasn’t saying “It was an attack related to the Bible”, that wouldn’t make any sense.

    Agreed, but the definition and modern day usage of the word biblical does bring the context of religious behaviour as a comparison point, specifically the type of religious behaviour in the bible.

    They aren’t saying “it’s caused by the bible” as much as “This is the type and level of behaviour one would expect to find in the bible ( a religious text )”

    Which is still religious, unless you don’t consider the bible to have any religious significance.

    When he said it was mediæval he didn’t mean it was related to 14th century history, he was characterising the attack.

    The whole point of using a word whose definition is to evoke a relationship to a period or concept is to relate this meaning to the subject.

    Otherwise you’d just describe the situation directly.

    If you wish to argue that someone is using a word in a way that is explicitly ignoring the actual definition (and common usage) of the word, you’re free to do so.

    Seems an odd hill to die on, but i’ve my own equally strange hills.




  • Your missing the part in the middle where you spend 6 months telling them in no uncertain terms that the thing they are asking is stupid and will not work properly/safely.

    Various back and forth emails, a completely “justified” performance review program because of your “falling standards” and several meetings with various managers at different levels of “importance”.

    Also the “You’re absolutely correct, ENJOY” is written at the bottom of your resignation letter or told to them directly in your “redundancy” exit interview.







  • I know of it but I’ve not put any effort in to specific practice.

    My personal opinion is that most communication between anyone contains manipulation, even if they aren’t doing it consciously, it’s an intrinsic part of how we deal with each other.

    The difference is that i don’t have much of a natural instinct for it, i have to practice and be much more intentional, which brings benefits are drawbacks.

    I find that a lot of people in general can be manipulated in similar ways (I’m no exception to this) but techniques vary by culture, upbringing, experience, context etc, i don’t like to do it , however, for the reason stated a bit further down.

    Identifying which markers work for which people is a a lot of the battle initially.

    Unfair is relative and heavily context dependent but in some circumstances yeah it can feel a bit like a cheat, what I’ve found over time is that I’d be cheating myself just as much as anyone else, my goal in general was/is better communication and understanding, if I’m intentionally manipulating outside the norms then the interaction is tainted in terms of learning natural communications patterns.

    If they are intentionally manipulating outside of the norms then that’s significantly more interesting and useful for gaining samples from uncommon behaviours.


  • Lots of practice.

    For me it works like an elaborate pattern recognition tree.

    e.g. This face in this context means x thing 75% of the time so far.

    Then it’s “strong opinions held weakly”, you now have a working hypothesis but it’s just that, a hypothesis.

    Every facial/body/word/etc change could be a modifier to the previous assumption. You could also match some newly remembered memory to the situation that also changes the impression of what is going on.

    It’s exhausting, but it becomes easier with practice.

    It’s gets more refined the more you are around the same people, as you get a ‘feel’ for their patterns.

    You also start to build up a library of ‘shortcuts’ that you can sometimes apply to unfamiliar situations/people.

    At some point it starts to become ‘muscle memory’ and the energy required to do it is greatly reduced.

    YMMV however, I’ve no idea if this will work for anyone else in the way I have described.

    I’d also say to remember that everyone is guessing to some degree or another it’s just that your guesses might require a bit more intention, whichever method (s) you settle on.

    You do what you can with what you have, that is the best that can be reasonably expected of anyone.








  • You’re never going to get an honest answer to this question,

    The honest answer was in the post they were originally replying to.

    I will never tolerate ads. I will give up YouTube before I watch ads.

    Youtube isn’t an existential need.

    Ad’s or bust isn’t a real dichotomy.

    Here’s another honest suggestion, drop free ad supported Youtube as a product and go full premium.

    It’d significantly reduce infrastructure costs and they’d be able to fund it with subscription monies.

    edit: used the wrong quote at the start