One thing, hmm. I need a rug for our front room, and a hundred would get a much nicer one than those I was looking at, so a rug.
Bourbon sour, unless it’s a good bar, then a margarita. If it’s really not a good bar, like at a concert then vodka cranberry or whiskey pineapple.
But at like a restaurant bar, mid tier, a bourbon sour.
I have noticed, with YouTube Music: if you play a new song, it plays similar sounding songs, old and new - that’s great.
If you play an old song, though, it just plays other music from the same time period regardless of what they sound like. Stupid.
Oh, Mr. Flickerman. Old people have sex. More than young people since now not as many distractions, no young kids or chance of pregnancy. I think a better way to express this is, it’s not important as long as it’s not a problem. I agree the friendship part is more important, but having a similar sex drive makes everything work better, and sex is not a silly thing to need in a romantic relationship, it’s not a frivolous extra.
Because you are in the middle of nowhere? There are so many people in the world, I cannot imagine nobody is into you. Above I see you say something about “people like you” but you seem to be able to communicate well and keep your cool, that puts you ahead of a lot of guys.
If you are around 40, it’s a pretty good age for looking for a partner. A lot of movement in the market, for lack of a better term.
If you want to hook up, get out there and talk to people. If you literally just want sex and not relationship, I can guarantee you that somewhere someone will be thrilled to break you in, no question. Anything you can imagine, someone gets off on it.
If you want a whole different life and sex is just part of what you are dissatisfied with, that is up to you to change - the point of power is always in the now. It doesn’t matter who you were, and while there are outside forces, you can do a lot to change your own life.
Ha! Well, certainly don’t try it with your dog.
I wish you luck, but if you haven’t tried sex by now maybe it isn’t your thing? Have you no girl-or- boyfriend to try it with? If you start old, you may have to go through the awkward part still but I think it will pass more quickly because you are, presumably, more mature and less hung up.
Dude. You are still a kid. Not missing out on anything yet.
And yes sex is awesome if it’s good, but takes some practice usually before it is good. It’s free and fun and good for relationships. Better when older and not so self conscious.
You can certainly afford to wait for years, literally no reason to rush, all you are missing out on is the awkward bad part.
Make a vinaigrette then crumble in blue cheese and shake it together. That might be my favorite, or at least the best one I’m usually willing to make.
I guess we could use a little ice age right around now, and it would also be nice to have a Renaissance around the corner.
Someone said inns and taverns, and yes it’s a missing piece of housing here - long term hotels with food, bars/restaurants with rooms to rent above.
Not much though, it is not a time I’d visit.
Orville Peck - C’mon Baby Cry
Every time this plays at my house everyone is belting it out. Nobody can hit the high notes.
I grew up without AC in Florida.
Sit in the shade with a fan, be still. If in the shade and a breeze, and not moving around, a pretty high temperature is comfortable.
Go to places with cold AC or to cold springs to get cold, it will last awhile after you leave.
If it gets cool at night, open your window at night to let in the cold air, close it in the morning to keep that air in for the morning. But once it heats up inside, you are better off with ventilation - open windows on both sides of the house and run fans, to move air throughout the house.
If it’s dry where you are (it doesn’t work here) get wet and let evaporation cool you. Even here you can get wet and stand naked in front of a fan you will get cold.
STAY HYDRATED.
I don’t think this has been mentioned, but it is also used to hide age discrimination. HR can’t say you are too old, so they say overqualified.
Orange soda.
With my third baby, she did not want to come out (in stark contrast to her sisters, who all seemed to want to give me about one hour of advance notice before getting born) and the midwife said, before trying induction, try castor oil, sometimes it will kick the labor on. Not a spoonful, no. A whole bunch. And don’t puke it out. I chased it with orange soda because I liked it but figured I could certainly manage without it.
Oh God. I couldn’t even look at orange soda without nausea for several years. And it didn’t even work, I still had to get induced!
Well, a cocktail of course!
I do like sweets sometimes. Ricotta cake with raspberries is the house favorite; tiramisu is amazing, cheesecake is great, ice cream, or a fruit salad. Those are all so good.
What a good question! No, most of the time I feel I am stuck here with everyone else, in this timeline. Sometimes what I perceive diverges from those around me, other times it converges. But I think of those as different filters overlaying the same reality; although I don’t believe this is the only reality in existence, it does feel like a ride we cannot get off.
I have heard it said (this might help you) that love is a verb; it is an action, can be something you do more than something you feel. You can show love, without worrying about what you are ‘supposed’ to feel. Also if it helps - I am, as far as I know, pretty normal, and the feeling is not a bash you over the head certainty. It is more like a decision, in a way.
I think of romantic love as what follows infatuation, if you get there. The continued slow burn of lust, affection and respect for each other.
Friendly love is care, when you would let yourself be hurt to save a specific other person from being hurt, and are willing to be inconvenienced to do things for them, and trust enough to inconvenience them if you need something.
Agape - love, love for the world, is both easier and harder to feel. It’s easier to not be annoyed by things and people you don’t personally know, but hard to care so much about them. That universal love feeling , the joy of existence and care for the natural world is also love.
So yeah English in this regard just doesn’t have (or doesn’t use) different words for different types of love but they are different.
Well, mine are dead but my mom kicked me out at 17.
My first set of kids, I gave a little money towards college (they got scholarships and aid that paid most of it, we were quite poor) so they didn’t get student loans, and the younger ones I am letting live at home and feeding them and all as they are doing school locally but no cash, they have jobs.
As adults? No, not financially, but since they helped me with the younger ones I do have some indebtedness towards them. So sure, when they need something I try to help.
They all say they’d be happy to have a big ol family home with everyone in it, but if we ever do that I wouldn’t think of it as helping them at this point. Would be everyone helping each other.
Honestly I would like to try microdosing LSD, not mushrooms. Something that can be measured, and my youthful experience with these, the tripping is more comfortable/happy/open.
Also it’s the only drug I’d ever try again as far as recreational drugs go. Well, I tried cannabis but hated the high, so I guess not the only one but the only remaining one that I would like to try again. In particular the very, very minimal microdosing but might be willing to also trip. Since I am hella respectable now, too many degrees away from being able to get the drug, especially in a format I could divide up to microdose, not sure it will ever be possible. But other than the legal considerations leading to lack of access nothing else makes me not want to - other drugs I think physically unhealthy or bad for your cognition as you age, or too addictive. I don’t have those concerns about LSD. I think, like coffee it’s more likely to protect your thinking in the long run, and certainly almost nobody wants to trip often.
There are two answers for me. Sometimes I stop and think my way out of it and am ok after a couple hours, I can let it go.
Sometimes I just get angrier and angrier as I think about it, and in that situation I must talk to the other party. That usually takes a day or two because it takes me that long to realize I’m not gonna calm down, am still mad. But every time this has happened, the other party has apologized because they, in the same intervening time, have realized they were being asshole-ish.
Nobody I know takes that long to tell me, if I am being asshole-ish. It can take me an hour or so to calm down and apologize.
All of this assumes good intentions on all sides. My ex, you couldn’t back down or apologize with him, he saw it as weakness and would mock, was terrible at fighting.