I usually just improvise and wing it. It stresses my husband out I think. He likes to plan. 😆

Ah yes! How could i forget about waiting mode. This is super fun times right here. 100% recommend!

They are in a 20 gallon long right now. Going to be combining my 2 20 gallons into a 55 gal soon. Super excited.

I really like that large piece of wood. Nice scape too.

I try really hard to make earlier in the day appointments now because of this. Of course once the appointment or whatever it is is done I still don’t do anything else with the day because you know what? All that waiting was exhausting and now I’m spent.

Thanks for sharing this. I didn’t have a name for this feeling until I was diagnosed with ADHD and started learning more about it and all that comes along with it. Though I would not wish this on anyone else it is good to know sometimes that we are not the only ones going through these struggles.

Yep! Me too. 3 is the lucky number here! Though I do suspect living with undiagnosed ADHD my whole life led up to the other two. I’m just a bundle of fun over here.

I feel called out by this statement. At least something is getting done though.

If I’m not really into what I’m reading the words are just words and I dont really absorb what is being said, if I am interested in what I’m reading however its the opposite and I don’t even see words, just knowledge or if its a story I disappear into another world. It’s one or the other and I can’t force it. I think I must hit some kind of hyperfocus mode when I am able because usually when this happens it’s hard to pull myself out of what I’m reading. I need to figure out how to turn that mode on manually. 😆

Not in tech anymore but I definitely do this with my jobs. It really sucks because I could be doing so much more but I just can’t be bothered to care after the I got a new job and this is interesting phase. But at least I have these random bits of information that I can pretend to be smart with thst come up at the most inopportune times. 🤣 I feel you on the imposter syndrome.

At 22 you still have most of your life to live. Be glad you found out now and not at 44. Diagnosed this summer and it’s good to know, but at the same time all those years of flailing kind of make me sad. All I can do though is move on from here and I hope you can do the same.

Yep, never was able to understand what I should be studying for exams. Always was learning the wrong things and then would be like where did that question come from? Then id try to just make stuff up to answer.

Got to college and it was even worse. They threw stuff on there from lectures that was not in the text book and of course I wasn’t paying attention or wasn’t even there. 🙄

of course the classes I was fascinated with I didn’t have trouble because I could almost recite the material after fixating on it. Wish I could have done that for all my classes. Maybe I’d have a degree right now. would have been nice to know about ADHD back then. Oh well. Such is life.

I don’t do a lot of commenting but I just wanted to say thank you for putting your foot down on this. It is incredibly disheartening to keep hearing stuff like that. It discourages people from sharing and learning. It dismisses people’s lived experiences and troubles.

Personally I started to have suspicions about a year ago and it wasn’t due to these memes. It was due to real struggles I am having. I hit rock bottom and just got fed up with my crap amd was finally done running from my problems. I never self disgnosed but i atumbled upon an rlarticle o. Adhd when i was trying tonfogute out why inwas so much fail and it resonated so i started reading and then found these communities which I did relate too way to much. And now as of about a month ago I have a diagnosis. The memes did help encourage me to seek help but they where not the sole reason.

Anyways, if someone relates and it encourages them to seek help I see that as a win even if it turns out they don’t have adhd. And even though many people frown on it “self diagnosis” is a first step for many in seeking an official diagnosis. I really don’t understand this mentality of people dismissing ADHD or gatekeeping it. It’s not like people just want to have ADHD. People are here because they either have it, a loved one has it or they may have suspicions.

I just felt like I wanted to say something because this stuff has really been bothering me. Thabk you for trying to keep this a safe space for us all. Much respect.

Hate that this has to be a worry. Makes it harder for people that actually need help to get help. If I was drug seeking there are easier options than going for a freaking adhd assessment. Oh well, try not to stress over it, and I know it’s hard not too but you can always go to another Dr. Just makes it a pain in the ass. Good luck of you do decide to go through with it.

Holy crap I’m this squirrel. My hobby seems to be collecting hobbies. All fear my hobby hoarding!

I am not diagnosed but have good reason to suspect I have adhd so I am in the process of trying to get a diagnosis. This is kind of it for me too. My brain never shuts up. Weed slowed my mind down and of course made me feel good like you said. I actually had moments if i didnt overdo it where it gave me motivation to actually do something with myself. Fine line though on the amount, kind of needed to microdose for that affect. Otherwise it just numbed me to my own issues and kind of made me not care. Only reason I quit is because my problems i wasn’t dealing with started to catch up with me and I hit a really bad depressive state that kind of scared me after literally everything was crashing in on me. Maybe eventually I will use it recreational again but for now I’m staying away and trying to get real help.

I lost so much freaking weight after I quit. I had zero appetite and had to force myself to eat the bit I did. It was like I was going through a depression or something. But yes, 2 weeks sounds about howblong the worst of it was for me too.

I hear you on the meds. I’m not sure I’m to enthused about those but people keep saying they help so I don’t know. I also know I need to change my behavioral habits I’ve developed over the years but it’s not easy. Just going to go with whatever the psychiatrist says and gk from there. I’m just so tired of my own crap at this point. And yeah, weed made it easier to just be. And I don’t think you have to take medication if you don’t want too. Don’t think they will force it on you.

Used weed for the past 20ish years to make my damned brain shut up and for sleep issues. I quit about 4 months ago after the realization that I might have adhd. Wanted to see if things got better after stopping. They really didn’t. I had no clue that this could be the source of my issues until recently so now I’m over here waiting for an appointment. Self medication and drug/alcohol use is apparently really common with undiagnosed adhd. But damned do I miss it. The first couple weeks where rough, and i do feel like I was having some withdrawal effects from quitting despite people saying it’s not addictive. It was literally giving me easy dopamine so your comment makes alot of sense.

Gender can affect how it presents. For example it seems easier to catch in males vs females. Females tend to be more often inattentive vs hyperactive, though personally I keep scoring combined type. It’s different from person to person. Most of these screenings ask for email. I’ve probably taken every screening test on the damned internet at this point and most ask for emails. Make a fake email if you have too. I have my spam emails for stuff like this so my main email doesn’t get bogged down.