ADHD here. Remembering things is a lost cause for me.
Instead, I lay physical “traps” for myself. Things in physical space that hinder my autopilot, snap me out of the trance, and give me a chance to reorient my focus into something more productive.
It’s not foolproof. Far from it. But it does help a lot.
Edit:
Just thought of another one I do: I have a phone casing that lets me keep cards in them. One of my credit cards go there, of course.
But the more important thing in there is my apartment access card. If I ever forget to bring my phone, I will only get as far as the security door outside before I realise I have to turn back.
I have a dumping area in the kitchen where I eat my breakfast and drink my coffee. I shove anything I need to remember in what will be my eye line when I sit down.
I have tried the tip someone gave me once of putting house keys on top of lunch box on fridge as well so as not to forget it. Pretty good idea!
I have a routine of just pulling my lunch out when I get the milk for my coffee at the moment though and that’s working quite well.
I think someone once told me that this is called “habit stacking”. It’s when you take a habit that you already do every day (like brushing your teeth) and mix it with something else you need/want to do (like listening to an audiobook)