i went to the mall to do stuff and wanted to try on some sweaters and asked the clerk where the fitting rooms were. and this dude instantly had this quite severe sort of - disappointed stern adult look about him as he pointed me there. like, he was very sort of clean and clean shaven and had a fitted sweater and everything. and i had a hat and a beard and longish hair and i’m a young guy so like yeah i guess but still i mean dude - you work at the macy’s, wtf am i supposed to be wearing to shop at a store and speak to you?

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    I wouldn’t say that proves a point.

    Do I agree that in that moment you made the best decision? Sure.

    Does that invalidate the woman’s feelings of confusion, anger, or anything else? Absolutely not.

    Two things can be true at the same time. You did the right thing and your actions caused an emotional response of another human.

    Have I never spoken to people like that? Sure I have, I was an insufferable prick when younger.

    Do I now realise that you can do the right things and still impact others in negative ways. I like to take the approach of not being the centre of the world and understand that 8B other people are living just as important lives as I am.