You’re not overstepping at all, I appreciate the insight. This has also been suggested by mutual friends who we went to school with. I’m not saying she wasn’t, but I’m attracted to men and we would talk a lot about different guys we found attractive. Of course, she could have been bi or into just women and never revealed that to me. As far as I know she was heterosexual, but again - no guarantee she wasn’t telling me the truth about her sexuality (if that was indeed the truth). But also, neither one of us dated very much so maybe that was a sign, too. She never came onto me though.
Others have said that maybe she had a crush on the guy I started dating…he was a mutual friend of ours for years. But again, if she was attracted to him, she never said anything to me.
Yeah, that makes sense. It seems like your communication was genuinely excellent and a solid foundation for tackling thorny issues such as a shared interest in the same person. It could be she didn’t even realize how she felt until suddenly you were dating someone else. At that point, she may have just felt trapped and unable to move forward.
All just idle speculation, which I’m sure helps very little, but your story really resonated with me.
No, this was a very long time ago at this point. I did send one more email updating her on my life about 5 years after “the incident” because I had moved to a different state and had a new job and was like here’s my work email if you would want that for some reason. I also included another childhood friend of ours on that email so it wouldn’t be too weird.
I apologize if this is overstepping, but could she have been in love with you? She may not even have known how she felt until you got a boyfriend.
There are, of course, a million other things that would explain it, but hearing your story that was what immediately jumped to mind.
Regardless, I’m sorry you had to go through that.
yeah that was my reaction as well
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this comment isn’t about your post dude, it’s about this comment chain
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You’re not overstepping at all, I appreciate the insight. This has also been suggested by mutual friends who we went to school with. I’m not saying she wasn’t, but I’m attracted to men and we would talk a lot about different guys we found attractive. Of course, she could have been bi or into just women and never revealed that to me. As far as I know she was heterosexual, but again - no guarantee she wasn’t telling me the truth about her sexuality (if that was indeed the truth). But also, neither one of us dated very much so maybe that was a sign, too. She never came onto me though.
Others have said that maybe she had a crush on the guy I started dating…he was a mutual friend of ours for years. But again, if she was attracted to him, she never said anything to me.
Yeah, that makes sense. It seems like your communication was genuinely excellent and a solid foundation for tackling thorny issues such as a shared interest in the same person. It could be she didn’t even realize how she felt until suddenly you were dating someone else. At that point, she may have just felt trapped and unable to move forward.
All just idle speculation, which I’m sure helps very little, but your story really resonated with me.
Thanks! I’m glad you maybe got something out of it.
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No, this was a very long time ago at this point. I did send one more email updating her on my life about 5 years after “the incident” because I had moved to a different state and had a new job and was like here’s my work email if you would want that for some reason. I also included another childhood friend of ours on that email so it wouldn’t be too weird.
Nothing. No response.
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