The part that I think is fatal is the loss of trust. Like when someone acts like they are ok and equally energetic and enthusiastic about what they and you both suggest or plan to do, and later say you secretly exhaust them just in time to avoid doing what they signed both of you up for so to speak, there’s no abillity to predict how things will go—ever…I’m not some lilly-pad for you to capsize to temporarily hoist yourself…Anyways guess I was and I will work to avoid that in future
Edit: I think this is part of the difficulty of bona fide male/female friendships. I honestly feel at this point there’s a completely seperate layer of evaluation or expectstions that exist that really can’t be satisfied in any sense unless you have money or something impressive but I don’t feel like that will satisfy them ever. There’s another game being played and I’m honestly glad I’m not an attractive target for it anymore or ever
Yeah, it’s just once it’s happened I can’t forget anymore, I’d always be second guessing or paranoid that it would happen again. It screwed me up for friendship in general for a while because if a guy I knew since elementary school, who I thought I’d figured out could do that, then why trust anybody? You just never quite know somebody, sometimes.
And I sound pretty jaded when I say everything I’m saying, I don’t think everyone is like that. Some people are easier to figure out and are more straight up about everything, and some people aren’t, sometimes you get unlucky and get caught up with people who are more trouble than it’s worth.
The part that I think is fatal is the loss of trust. Like when someone acts like they are ok and equally energetic and enthusiastic about what they and you both suggest or plan to do, and later say you secretly exhaust them just in time to avoid doing what they signed both of you up for so to speak, there’s no abillity to predict how things will go—ever…I’m not some lilly-pad for you to capsize to temporarily hoist yourself…Anyways guess I was and I will work to avoid that in future
Edit: I think this is part of the difficulty of bona fide male/female friendships. I honestly feel at this point there’s a completely seperate layer of evaluation or expectstions that exist that really can’t be satisfied in any sense unless you have money or something impressive but I don’t feel like that will satisfy them ever. There’s another game being played and I’m honestly glad I’m not an attractive target for it anymore or ever
Yeah, it’s just once it’s happened I can’t forget anymore, I’d always be second guessing or paranoid that it would happen again. It screwed me up for friendship in general for a while because if a guy I knew since elementary school, who I thought I’d figured out could do that, then why trust anybody? You just never quite know somebody, sometimes.
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And I sound pretty jaded when I say everything I’m saying, I don’t think everyone is like that. Some people are easier to figure out and are more straight up about everything, and some people aren’t, sometimes you get unlucky and get caught up with people who are more trouble than it’s worth.