She means the world to me, I just want her to be happy. I don’t know if she’ll realize they’re from me.

Edit: okay, I let her know it was me

Edit to add context: I do like her more than as a friend, I know she doesn’t and that’s why I did it anonymously.

I don’t want her to feel pressured, just cared for. We have been good friends for a long time, I think my feelings can become an obstacle for our friendship and I hate that.

I wish I didn’t feel this way.

Update: we’re not friends anymore

  • klemptor@startrek.websiteEnglish
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    7 months ago

    I think you had good intentions but the flowers probably made her feel uncomfortable. As a woman, receiving flowers from a guy who knows I don’t reciprocate his feelings would not make me happy. It puts the woman in a bad spot. If she says thank-you to be polite, it can be misinterpreted as encouragement. And if she reminds him that she’s not interested, she’s a bitch. Either way it’s unwanted pressure because a man giving flowers to a woman is always going to be interpreted as a romantic gesture, which she clearly doesn’t want.

  • intensely_human@lemm.eeEnglish
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    7 months ago

    I think it’s nice you told her it was you. I can’t speak for others but if I got anonymous flowers I’d be delighted at first but soon I’d be obsessing over who it was and feeling all sorts of weird stress about feeling the need to find out.