Am i getting old if i feel the same way, i get really excited to have some time off to finally game only to then realize its really exhausting and i’d rather just watch some series or stream
At some point you recognize the game is just giving you another to-do list.
Yeah instead of playing an RTS game I started my own business. Grinding out some turns harvesting puts real gold in your pockets. But the angry villagers can be a problem sometimes.
Those damn children. Get them their grains!
Nah, I think that starts happening when you first get a job. Jobs take longer than school and generally are more labor intensive, and there’s also the commute, and when you get home you have to do chores and either make healthy food or eat something garbage for your body, and that’s just as a single person or a couple. It’s no wonder everyone’s tired, the 9-5 grind can be really exhausting, and when you’re tired anything that takes effort feels like a grind.
Just to be clear, I don’t mean to sound hopeless. There are things you can do that make life feel meaningful and to allow you to enjoy your time, I just mean that life can be tiring.
If you’re completely exhausted after your day it’s possible something deeper is going on
Not really that deep, just tired at the end of the day it’s normal stuff really. I can’t game when I get home I need to give my self breather before any of that plus gaming tried is never a fun experience
I can’t game when I get home because I have a partner to emotionally take care of by spending time with her and strengthing our bond. Sure I bitch about it sometimes, but I’m also not 14 anymore and have different priorities.
EDIT: That’s not to say I don’t game, but I have to be a lot more selective and realistic with when and for how long I do it, and that’s fine by me. Relationships are more important than videogaming dopamine hits.
Good to hear but it is a bitch you can’t do everything at once so you have to pick an choose. Lucky I’m not in a relationship so more me time is good time
Idk about you but I’m a dev, and when you have a job tbag keeps your brain ON a lot of the time, I feel like it’s more common to want to turn it off in your down time
Same, there’s no gas in the tank at the end of the day. I problem solve for a living, it’s hard to get into that after work
Nah, life’s exhausting and the older you get the more exhausting it becomes. Work requirements and responsibilities typically increase as you age, children are a black hole of time (as fun as they are), your body just starts to say “fuck this” and give up in creative ways and you just generally have less energy than you did the day before.
In the last couple of years I feel like that. Games that require a lot of time to get into, or to complete, feel like not accessible anymore.
I play either those games I used to for I already know them, or something with a very short route to dopamine. I’ve found playing Burnout series not causing me this burnout, kek. Just racing, no long-time investments, just crushing cars and see them fly. A good way to rest after a day of complicated tasks and decisions.
I feel like the older people get, the more they tend to prefer to watch others do things rather than do them themselves.
I relate hard. Multiple times before, I’ve spent hours and hours scouring the internet for a download link to a game, or even a tool or library needed to make it work. I’ll open the folder at 99%, ready to install 0.05 seconds after it’s downloaded. I’ll launch the game just to make sure it runs okay on my system, then give it a little whirl, and even then, it’s rare I’ll ever see beyond the tutorial, if that.
I feel like my steam library is just an ode to all the game streams I’ve watched.
My manager talked me into buying Diablo IV since I was into DnD.
I don’t know why people play games that require grinding when there are so many better options.
Diablo is cancer tbh. Mindless grinding, zero skill. The only challenge is creating a nice build but that requires grinding and anyone can copy it from a YouTuber and learn to use it in a few minutes.
Many genres can be called trash for different reasons, lol. I hate rhytm\reaction games, from dancing and playing instruments to fromsoft titles. It’s just I’m not build to enjoy them. But I love Diablo and would try to explain why.
Besides art direction of old Bliz and Matt Uleman’s OST, I like these series for… them being a task in optimization. Some games like building and management simulators are straightforward about it, but there it only shows in the endgame of diabloids. You are to think of theoretical ways of bettering your build, but also inventing the best way to farm X things in the least time possible to make it. I haven’t topped the ladder too many times for looking up others’ builds and copying them steals half of enjoyment from experimenting with it. It touches the same buttons in me as rewriting code for better performance does, and the only downside is me, a meatbag, executing it line by line, that you called mindless for a reason. I just reiterate through my idea before I see the predicted outcome.
That sort of enjoyment also surfaces in other games, like old shooters and RPGs, where I find ways to abuse the system and benefit from it. It’s a casual version of what speedrunners are into. Finding the best\fastest way to do X, but only for you to test and observe.
God of War, Dark Souls, Elden, The Witcher… All of these games have a system to optimiza your character without the need to grind for hours non-stop. Armored Core will also have a complex build system for the mechas.
The problem with Diablo for me is that it is just that, just building a character that hits hard. If you have a good build, everything is waaay too easy unless you are going into dungeons 20 levels above yours. And even then, it doesn’t feel rewarding because killing the enemies isn’t hard, it just takes too long. Like, it was taking me 10 seconds to kill a basic minion, and even that felt better than going into a dungeon and obliterating everything.
Maybe I could enjoy building a character if I didn’t need to spend hours and hours grinding to level up and to get the right items with the right affixes. The grinding is just a torture, I feel I’m wasting my time.
As I feel my time wasted playing souls-likes :)
Yeha, it’s fine. Everyone is allowed to have preferences. Why do you feel games like God of War are a waste of time?
Honestly, I’m shit at clicking right buttons at the right time, so I’m biased :)
But other than that, I don’t feel like I’m needed there. My inputs doesn’t change the flow of the kino that much, they are either correct or incorrect, and I’m either allowing it to continue or being a boulder stopping it from going on. GoW, another GoW, Uncharted and now TLoU for me are benchmarks of gfx and user experience possible on next gen consoles, but they aren’t as interactive as old rpgs and sandboxes I am a fan of. And they are gated behind my inability to react when timings are tight. I dropped some games because it wasn’t fun or wasn’t fair. You can google car chases in Yakuza games – and see many people dropping the game because this sequence was unbearable.
For I don’t really hate this mechanic in games, I only really enjoy it when I know it’d follow my input. As I love some heat actions in Yakuza series – after pressing Y with a weapon to start the animation, you know then you are to mash B to bash your enemy’s head against the obstacle repeatedly, and that feels like an organic response to what I press.
I’m fucking drunk rn but I hope I satisfied your curiosity with that wall of text.
Yeha, those games are kinda like a choreography, you’re not totally free to do whatever you want. You’re very restricted in what you can do and usually you have 1 or 2 options when you need to react.
Based on your input, you should give Breath of the Wild a try. It’s a game in which creativity is the only limit. I didn’t enjoy it that much because the combat is too easy, but then I saw what people can do when they get creative. It’s really insane. I completed the game playing like a noob, never expected those things to be remotely possible, because nobody tells you what to do. Nobody tells you “here’s how you do this insane combo”. People just piece the mechanics together. I guess that’s the beauty of Nintendo in general
Lol, that was actually pretty coherent.
Why? KINGMAKER AND BALDURS GATE ARE RIGHT THERE DUDE
I remember when grinding diablo was something you did because you liked killing endless hordes of monsters. It wasn’t because the game told you to do it.
Also crazy being a fan of 1 and 2 when they were new and having fans of 3 and 4 telling you this and that were always part of the series, clearly showing they have only ever played Diablo 3 and 4 because they’re always things that were first introduced in 3 and were the things that fans prior to 3 criticized when it came out.
I enjoy Diablo. What are some better alternatives? Diablo 4 is my first rpg
Grim dawn is worth checking out.
I highly recommend Last Epoch!
@Pavr @nandeEbisu, a nice alternative of Diablo is Eternium, free to play (not pay to win, only options to buy cosmetic parts in the game menu, not needed for advantages in the game), for PC (mouse and keyboard) and optimized also for mobile and tablets with Touchscreen (gestics). Advances are synced between PC and Mobile. Singleplayer.
https://store.steampowered.com/app/981600/Eternium/
And also in the Appstore in Android
https://www.eterniumgame.com
Like playing game, grinding isn’t that bad if you don’t like the base of the game grinding is going to look like a pain.
This is me trying to finish Zelda: Tears of the Kingdom.
I have fallen asleep multiple times playing that game. The stable music is perfect if you’re trying to drift off to sleep. Something about that flute…
Yea there seems to be so much to do that I spend all my time wondering what to do next, only to find that its not that fun and then spending more time traveling to somewhere else
I’m having a lot less fun with totk than I did with botw 😞. It’s like combination of too many quests, too many caves and being forced to build stuff all the time. I just want to climb mountains, glide, find cool weapons and do shrines. I also hate not having the shrine radar like in botw. I feel like I’m roaming blindly and getting 1 shot by enemies all the time
You can get the shrine radar in TotK
Continue with Robbie’s questline. You get the shrine sensor and more. I loved the purah pad upgrades in totk.
I believe I would have had a better time with Botw if there was a god mode. I just want to explore the world and climb stuff, not having to fight super strong enemies.
I actually do have a set list of stuff that I want to do before beating the game, and getting all the Shrines is on that list. That’s partially why it’s taking so long.
This hits hard
I feel you, fellow player. That, plus kids…
That’s why I’m so glad to WFH, it saves both time and energy.
I am still too tired after a day of WFH
Me too…but at least now I sleep a bit more because I don’t have to commute between home and office…
True, I run both PC and mac all weekdays, some times I game and work simultaneously lol
watching gaming streams is a good solution
I’m like this with League. I can’t stand playing sometimes but I still enjoy watching
Getting old with kids you’ll start to feel this. You just want to disconnect from the world after a certain point. It sucks because you WANT to play; you just… don’t want to lol.
It’s even worse as PC gamer.
My Gaming rig literally sat there 4 years unused because of two kids.
Now I feel the urge to game again, everything in this rig is outdated. Spent couple hundred bucks to get it ready again and it was amazing getting back to building a PC.
Now do I have time for playing? Hell na, see you in three years upgrading again.
A Steam Deck mostly fixes that issue, but not always. Assuming that a heck ton of pictures of dads in r/steamdeck went in.
I also played new games more likely because of the Steam Deck.
I fired up Dragon Age: Origins today to scratch the itch (I swore I had it somewhere but couldn’t find it) and in a blink of an eye I had already played for four hours straight
And that was enough for me lol I got shit to do and the gaming experience feels different these days. Still enjoyable, though, and god what a throwback
I am replaying Dragon Age: Origins right now also! Same experience for me. I’m trying to watch all dialogue scenes also and let them play out without skipping.
I turn around and a few hours has passed without me even knowing…
Damn. I loved that game so much. I miss old BioWare RPGs.
Me when a game is longer than 30 hours or not a FromSoft title
Haha I agree! Fromsoftware games are among the few that are addictive for me even if I’m tried.
Now I’m stuck in TOTK. I want to complete it so I can move on with other games. (I hate leaving single player games unfinished).
Finally get home from work and get a chance to play Zelda TotK! —Start falling asleep while playing…
Then try to figure out wtf I was doing the next time I start up the game
I relate to this too much … I’ll play through my library eventually
Right??
I hope steam’s still going strong when I retire.
Put your steam account in your will
Lol no
Yeha sure… Why not.
Y’all are allowed to only do things you enjoy. You know that right? …right?
Want to play game, to tired to play
See the problem?
There are games that are suited for being tired and there are games that are not. It’s entirely up to you which one you choose to play
If you’re tried there isn’t any game to play while being tried. Play exhausted isn’t fun or good way to play
Spotted the trust fund baby.
Finally successful enough to buy systems, buy every system, never play anything.
Im on lunch with my deck sitting next to me in it’s bag. I just don’t have the energy anymore after work. Hell part of it is every time I get into a game I have to stop to let my dogs out or in and then that steals enjoyment as now I’m watching and waiting for them instead of being immersed. It sucks.